One of the things that’s essential for us to do as Christians is to read the Bible on a regular basis. I’m sure we all know that, and I hope we all do it. But what’s far better than simply reading the Bible is to take the time to study it, to delve more deeply into the Bible than simply reading it allows us to do. And one very good way of doing this is to try to imagine ourselves as part of the story we’re reading, perhaps as an eyewitness of what’s happening, or even as a character in the story itself. This is something that study groups are sometimes asked to do and then to share their thoughts with the rest of the group. But there’s nothing to stop us doing this individually and making notes on what we think and feel through entering into the story in this way. And I think this morning’s Gospel, the story of the Prodigal Son, is a very good story to use in this way because we should all be able to identify with the main characters in the story.
There are only three characters in this parable, the father and his two sons. And it makes no difference whether we’re a father or a mother, or a son or a daughter, we should all be able to identify with these three characters because we’ll all have been in situations just like those they find themselves in, in the parable. So let’s start with the younger son.
The younger son is a typical youngster, someone who wants everything now while he’s young enough to enjoy it, and I’m sure we’ve all been like that at some time in our lives. Jesus doesn’t say in the parable, that the young man’s father tried to offer him advice, but that’s something a loving father, and he is a loving father, of course he is because he represents God, the Father, that’s something a loving father would have done. But the younger son doesn’t listen. And how many times have we been like that? Perhaps when we were younger, nagging our parents until we got what we wanted, only to find that what we wanted so much wasn’t as good as we thought it would be, or only made us happy for a short time until it lost its appeal to us? Or when we were older, wanting to exert our independence and do our own thing, go our own way, ignoring what turned out to be good advice from someone older? And then getting ourselves into a bit of a mess because we wouldn’t listen?
We’ve all done these things. But how have we reacted when we’ve realised that we were wrong? Have we, like the younger son, had the humility, and the courage, to admit our mistake, go back home and say that we’re sorry for all we’d put our loving parents and others who care for us through? Or have we been too proud to admit that we were wrong and stayed away, if not physically then at least in a more distant relationship with those loving parents and others? How many families have been torn apart in just this way?
Jesus’ teaching here of course is that we should have the humility to accept our faults, our sins against God and our neighbour, and the courage to ask for forgiveness. To ask forgiveness from God obviously, but also to try to put things right with those who’ve been hurt because of our selfish actions. But we can also see in the story of the younger son, a warning to listen to what those who love us are saying, before we act, and to think about what we’re going to do, before we do it. And, as Christians, the advice we need to listen to above all is that Jesus offers us in the Gospel.
The second character in the parable is the father. As I said, the father represents God, so he is a loving father who no doubt tried to advise his youngest son about the potential problems he was heading for, just as God the Father has tried to advise his children through the law, the prophets and by sending his own Son into the world. But God’s advice is often ignored, and we go on along our own rocky and often far from sweet way, while he looks on and weeps. And I use that word quite deliberately because Jesus wept for Jerusalem and it’s people who were heading for disaster because they wouldn’t listen to what the Father was saying to them through him. And how many times have we been in a situation like that, when someone we love, one of our children or perhaps a sibling or dear friend was about to make a big mistake and we’ve tried to talk sense into them, but they wouldn’t listen.
In the parable, the father gives his son what he asks for and lets him go. And that’s because he loves his son. Because love does let go. Love can’t be forced, so we can’t force those we love to do what we want them to do, even out of love . We might want to; we might want to scream at them to stop or even physically stop them from doing what they’re about to do. But if we love them, in the end we will let them go. Just as God lets us go. And I’m sure that anyone who has children knows that feeling. But perhaps we’ve experienced it with siblings and friends too. The thing about the father in the parable is that, even though his youngest son doesn’t listen, and it does all end in tears, he doesn’t stop loving his son. And when his son finally comes to his senses and comes home, the father welcomes him with open arms.
But when we’ve found ourselves in situations like this, how have we reacted to the return of a prodigal? Have we welcomed them in the way the father in the parable welcomes his returning son, or have we got on our high horse and said something along the lines of,
“Oh, you’re back are you? Finally come to your senses have you? I told you, but would you listen? No. Because you always know best don’t you? Well I hope you’ve learned your lesson.”
But that’s not the response of love is it? We might be happy to see the prodigal return but our pride, that was wounded because this person didn’t listen to us in the first place, us who was the one who actually did know best all along, our wounded pride wins out over our love and we beat the returning prodigal up a bit, at least verbally and emotionally, until we come to our senses, realise just how happy we really are to see this person again, and allow love to show itself. Again, how many families and relationships have been torn apart in this way. Because love has had to wait until anger and wounded pride has subsided?
But what a pretty pickle we’d be in if God the Father treated us in this way. Actually, we do find in the Old Testament, that God does punish people for their sinful ways, but only until they come to their senses and return to him. And that’s really the central message of the parable of the Prodigal Son, that it doesn’t matter how stupid we’ve been, it doesn’t matter if we haven’t listened in the past, it doesn’t matter if we’ve lived a bad life in the past, as soon as we come to our senses and return to God and his ways, he will welcome us with open arms and rejoice over us as one who,
‘…was dead, and is alive; …was lost, and is found.’
Because he loves us. And our love for others is supposed to mirror his love for us and for all his children. So we should treat the returning prodigals in our lives with a love that’s stronger than anger and pride. Always.
That brings us to the third character in the parable, the elder son. And again this is a character we must all be able to identify with. The elder son is not happy at all that his wayward younger brother has been so warmly welcomed home by their father. And why should he be, he’s worked hard for his father, never caused him any trouble or pain, and never asked for anything from him. And yet now, this idiot, this disgrace, who has done all these things, is getting what looks like preferential treatment. Too right he’s not happy.
And we can often be like that can’t we? We think others are getting preferential treatment, and what really annoys us is that we think it’s usually quite undeserved. We go about our business, whatever that might be, quietly and efficiently, we don’t make a fuss, we simply get on with things. And yet others who don’t do nearly as much as we do but do make a big fuss, seem to be better thought of than we are. It happens a lot at work doesn’t it? But it happens in other places too. I used to get really annoyed at school, for example, when someone whose work was usually marked D or E would get praised to the rafters for getting a C. Whereas I, and others, who’d usually get an A or B would get roasted for putting a piece of C grade work in. It didn’t seem fair. So I’m sure we can all identify with the elder son.
But going back to my school days, one of my friends used to struggle at school because he couldn’t read very well, but he was my friend, so I used to help him. And I’d encourage him and praise him for getting work finished, regardless of the standard because I knew how hard it was for him to do any schoolwork. So what was the difference? Well, he was my friend and others perhaps weren’t. And what I was doing to help and encourage him was in private, between me and him, whereas what annoyed me so much was the praise given out in class by teachers; it was done in public. And that suggests that pride had something to do with why I found this kind of thing so annoying doesn’t it. I didn’t like people whom I thought weren’t as hard working as me (nor anywhere near as clever as me it must be said) being praised in public.
We can all get so annoyed about what we see as the unfairness of people being given what looks like preferential treatment can’t we. But do we ever stop to think about the ways we can show preferential treatment to some people and how unfair that might seem to those who don’t receive it from us? Do we ever stop to think about the circumstances behind what we see as preferential treatment? Do we ever consider that part of the reason, at least, why we find this kind of thing so annoying is actually rooted in our own pride and our jealousy of others?
Jesus tells us not to judge others because if we do, the standards we use to judge, and the standards we use to judge others are impossibly high at times, far higher than we can ever live up to ourselves, those standards will be used to judge us. But we do judge others, we judge situations and the people in those situations without knowing the full story behind what’s going on. Our pride and jealousy stop us from rejoicing at a sinner come to their senses, for example, because we think we deserve more than them because we think that we’re better than them. And what’s lacking in this? Love; the love of a father for his returning son, or the love of the Father for all his wayward, undeserving children, for all of us.
That’s an example of how we can engage with a Bible story more deeply by seeing ourselves as part of the story, as the people we’re reading about. If we can do that, we can imagine how we would feel in those circumstances. And that should make it easier to take the meaning of the story and apply it to ourselves. So I do encourage you to try it. We’re now half-way through Lent so perhaps you could try it as a spiritual exercise between now and Holy Week. I’m sure you’d learn something more about the story you choose, and you might just find out a bit more about yourself too.
Amen.
Propers for the 4th Sunday of Lent (Mothering Sunday) 30th March 2025
Entrance Antiphon
Rejoice, Jerusalem, and all who love her.
Be joyful, all who were in mourning;
exult and be satisfied at her consoling breast.
The Collect
Lent 4
O God, who through your Word
reconciles the human race to yourself in a wonderful way,
grant, we pray, that with prompt devotion and eager faith,
the Christian people may hasten toward the solemn celebrations to come.
Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son,
who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
God, for ever and ever.
Amen.
Mothering Sunday
God of compassion,
whose Son Jesus Christ, the child of Mary,
shared the life of a home in Nazareth,
and on the cross drew the whole human family to himself:
strengthen us in our daily living,
that in joy and in sorrow,
we may know the power of your presence to bind together and to heal;
through Jesus Christ your Son our Lord,
who is alive and reigns with you,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, now and for ever.
Amen.
The Readings
Joshua 5:9-12
Psalm 34:2-7
2 Corinthians 5:17-21
Luke 15:1-3, 11-32
Prayer after Communion
O God, who enlightens everyone who comes into this world,
illuminate our hearts, we pray,
with the splendour of your grace,
that we may always ponder what is worthy and pleasing to your majesty,
and love you in all sincerity.
Through Christ our Lord.
Amen.
Parish Church of St Mark Chadderton 